This is something that I think moms need to hear… and then hear again. Are you listening?
Your husband is capable.
I am going to say that again.
Your husband is capable.
If they are pretending not to be, don’t believe them, Give them a chance, encourage them, help them learn, and then trust them. You will be amazed at how much easier your life will be once you believe and live by these 4 words:
My husband is capable.
Too often moms don’t give there husbands a chance. You hear things such as
- “I’ll just change their diaper” (Despite having changed the last 55 diapers from the past week)
- “I’ll go in and comfort them at night” (During all 5 wakeups)
- “I can get their lunch together and cook them dinner” (and give them a bath in the morning, and get yourself ready to walk out the door)
I’m not knocking moms who do it all, I commend you. You have to be exhausted, I couldn’t do it.
My husband and I have the understanding that we had these babies together, and together we will care for them. With me being at home all day with the babies I of course play a larger part in caring for them, but at night and on weekends you better believe that Josh is pitching in whenever possible.
It takes giving up control, accepting that your way isn’t always the best way, and trusting that you decided to have kids with someone who is fully able to give great care to your little ones. It takes keeping your mouth shut when your husband does something different than you do, simply watch in satisfaction as you are able to sit in quietness for 15 minutes as your other half does his part.
Give your husband a chance and you will be amazed at how capable he is…
Your husband is able to give your child a bath
He can decide what to serve for dinner
He can grocery shop
He can dress your girl in a semi-matching outfit
He can potty train
He can change diapers
He can do more than play with kids, he can parent too
He can send your child to timeout
He can sing good night and read bedtime stories just as good as you can
He is fully capable of waking up at 2 am to put your baby back to sleep
He can spend the night alone with your baby so you can have a girls night
He can watch them while you get a haircut or pedicure
He can run a load of laundry just like you can and press go on the dishwasher on his way into the office
He knows what size diapers to buy at the grocery store
Don’t impair your husband by doing it all and don’t drive yourself into the ground not asking for help. You are not supermom, no one is. Grab a glass of wine tonight and share the night duties with your husband, you deserve a few minutes of quiet to yourself.
I FREAKING LOVE THIS!
Definitely going to keep this in mind when the time comes!!!
I LOVE this! I always did a lot of the work with the kids, due to work schedules when the kids were babies….but my husband was ALWAYS capable. And I knew it.
The problem?! My MIL! That’s right. If I had to work, and he was alone with the kids…she always took them & did everything. It drove my husband mad. This post relates to everything we both felt not too long ago 🙂